How Executive Functioning Helps Kids Succeed (and Why It’s Not Just About Intelligence)

As parents, we often hear about the importance of intelligence in our kids’ success. But did you know that being “smart” isn’t enough on its own? Success, whether in school or life, often depends more on a set of skills called “executive functioning”.  

What is Executive Functioning?  

Executive functioning is like your brain’s manager. These skills help kids:  

- Stay organized.  

- Focus on tasks.  

- Manage their time.  

- Handle emotions and make decisions.  

For example, when your child remembers their homework, figures out how much time they need to complete it, and resists the temptation to play video games instead—that’s executive functioning at work!  

How Is It Different from Intelligence?

While intelligence measures how well someone learns and understands information, executive functioning is all about *how* they use that information. Think of it like this: Intelligence is the car, but executive functioning is the driver. Even the fastest car won’t get far if the driver doesn’t know how to steer!  

Some kids might excel at understanding math concepts or reading but struggle to organize their materials or turn in assignments on time. This is where executive functioning skills come into play—they’re the tools kids need to put their smarts into action.  

Why Executive Functioning Matters  

Imagine two students:  

- Student A is naturally bright but forgets about assignments, procrastinates, and gets overwhelmed when things don’t go as planned.  

- Student B is of average intelligence but stays on top of their work, asks for help when needed, and keeps trying even when tasks are challenging.  

Student B is more likely to thrive because they have strong executive functioning skills. In fact, research shows that these skills often matter *more* than IQ for long-term success.  

How Can Parents Support Executive Functioning? 

The great news is that executive functioning can be taught and improved! Here are some practical ways to help your child strengthen these skills:  

1. Create routines: Morning and evening routines give kids structure and teach them to manage time.  

2. Use tools like planners: Help your child write down assignments and track deadlines so they stay organized.  

3. Break big tasks into smaller steps: If a project feels overwhelming, break it down into bite-sized pieces your child can tackle one at a time.  

4. Encourage problem-solving: Instead of solving every issue for them, ask questions like, “What do you think you could do next?”  

5. Practice patience and self-control: Teach calming techniques, like deep breathing, to help them manage emotions and stay focused.  

The Bigger Picture

When we focus on building executive functioning skills, we’re helping our kids become more independent and capable. These are the skills they’ll need not just for school, but for life—whether they’re managing homework now or juggling work deadlines later.  

Intelligence may help kids understand the world, but executive functioning gives them the tools to navigate it. As parents, we can guide them toward success by strengthening their ability to plan, organize, and persevere through challenges.  

At Illuminos, we specialize in helping students build the executive functioning skills they need to thrive. Our personalized coaching and tutoring programs focus on teaching kids how to plan, organize, manage their time, and stay focused—all in a way that works for their unique learning style. Whether your child is struggling to keep up with assignments, needs help staying motivated, or wants to become more independent in their learning, our expert coaches are here to guide them every step of the way. Together, we’ll help your child develop the tools and confidence to succeed not just in school, but in life. Learn more about our programs at Illuminos.

Sources:

• Life Skills Advocate. "Understanding the Link Between Executive Functioning & Intelligence."

• Best, J.R., Miller, P.H., & Naglieri, J.A. (2013). Frontiers in Psychology. "Relations between executive function and academic achievement."